Other than the stresses of moving back to the States, finding a job, and setting up house with Jon, I've been really stress-free, even though I've kept busy. And I discovered why - there's not drama (outside of the play that I'm in.)
I supposed the Army is just like any other organization if you stay in long enough, but when I left Germany, I was so stressed due to cliques and fights and tantrums thrown by "mature" officers. You couldn't talk about how excited your wedding was because then people would accuse you of being self-centered. People that claimed to be my friends didn't even ask me how the wedding was, or say congratulations. I mean, HELLO, I got married! A group of officers refused to even sit with each other, the pettiness got so bad. And while I did have some awesome friends there (you know who you are!) I sure was relieved to leave a lot of people.
Not that I'm not to blame. I contributed to drama a lot, and I have my faults. I DO talk about myself too much, and I do feed into gossip. But, as an almost-30-year-old woman, I've brave enough to realize when I make mistakes, and while I don't care to make up with some people back in Germany (another fault - I hold grudges!), I'm determined to amend myself for future friends. I've made efforts to get more involved, ask more questions, and talk about myself less, and I'm really enjoying the results. I've made some spectacular friends, I've been going to parties, it's really been great.
Anyway, if you find yourself in a tough situation where it seems like it's you against everyone, stop and think what you can do to adjust the situation. We can all improve and make the world a better place - and make ourselves happier in the process!!
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